J. Mike Ross, Ph.D.
Licensed Psychologist, Life Coach
Closed Office due to move to Arizona
512-983-1120
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Reviews

Words of affirmation and encouragement as stated by my former clients.

... excerpts from the complete reviews to the right.

"Dr. Ross saved our marriage!"

"You're left on the other side feeling hopeful, stronger, and more confident and his advice will ring in your ears for years to follow."

"It's only human to need help once in a while. Seeking help isn't a sign of weakness; it's a sign of strength to recognize you need it."

"... he (Dr. Ross) has a deep understanding of couple's relationships and how to help them make improvements."

"Dr. Ross was able to relate to both our sides, as well. He always let us express ourselves openly and without judgment and he was always very empathic on either side."

"You just know he's there to help you through; not to be a crutch or an enabler but someone that really wants to help you move through trouble or uncertain times."

"Dr. Ross was very warm, insightful, encouraging, and always seemed to hit home on how either of us were feeling in any given session."

The following are reviews written by former clients and displayed here with their permission. They are anonymous to maintain their confidentiality. Some of these and perhaps other reviews may also be available online at Angie’s List, Yelp, Google, etc.

 

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Dr. Ross saved our marriage! He says that we did the work and he was just the guide. I am convinced that without his guidance, we would be divorced instead of remaining together happier than ever. We argued frequently, there always seemed to be a tension between us, no friendship, no intimacy, terrible communication and I felt hopeless and miserable and so did my wife. I thought the only way out was divorce. Prior to seeing Dr. Ross, I had filed for divorce.

 

My wife found Dr. Ross and “guilt tripped” me into attending couples counseling (“for the sake of our children, she said”). At first, I was very reluctant and probably not very engaged. Dr. Ross is really easy to talk with, is non-judgmental, and has a good sense of humor. I was amazed at how well Dr. Ross could see both sides to our concerns. He could empathize with both of our perspectives in a very genuine way and this felt very good to both of us. He helped us understand the cycle and challenges that seemed to keep us stuck in a downward spiral. He gave us a sense of hopefulness and an overview of how we could improve our relationship. I later realized that he has a deep understanding of couple’s relationships and how to help them make improvements. Gradually, we could see improvements in our relationship, which gave us more hope.

 

In a session, we might talk directly with Dr. Ross as a couple or sometimes he would help us to talk with each other. At times, he might share an insight to help our understanding, help us to understand and process our emotions, or describe and often provide a handout for a different approach like to improve our communication, friendship, or intimacy. Every session seemed to be helpful in some way. Surprisingly, as we were improving our friendship, communication, and intimacy, I actually looked forward to our couple’s counseling sessions. Just think, I am the one who had to be coerced into attending the sessions. I stopped the divorce process and we both committed ourselves to making improvements in our marriage. At this time we were both hopeful and neither of us wanted to just settle.

 

As I write this review, it has been about 10 months since we finished our counseling with Dr. Ross. We are happier than ever before in our marriage. We look forward to seeing each other, our friendship and intimacy is great, we can communicate and work things out better when we don’t agree. Also, our commitment to each other is stronger, maybe because we have gone through this dark time together and have come into the sunshine together on the other side. We can even laugh together when my wife and I reflect on our experiences in counseling and she says, “See, I told you so, counseling could help.” My wife and I are thankful to Dr. Ross for his help! If you are struggling in your relationship, do yourself a favor and see Dr. Ross. We highly recommend Dr. Ross as a couple’s counselor.

 

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My husband and I went to Dr. Ross because we were going through a bit of a rough patch in our marriage. It was well worth the investment. Dr. Ross used to be an engineer before he went to get his PhD, and I think his logical, common sense style really appealed to both my husband and I. We met with him once a week over a series of maybe 6-10 weeks, and he taught us some really helpful skills to communicate better and stop being oversensitive and frustrated in our interactions. He helped us commit to spending 5 hours a week just as a couple, always a challenge to working parents with 2 kids, but it has made a huge difference. We would absolutely go back to Dr. Ross as needed for a tune-up in future, but things have been really much better vs. on shaky ground before, so I'd really recommend Dr. Ross to any couple who wants to keep their expectations of a relationship high, and not just settle into ongoing frustration, which he said was why many people drift apart.

 

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I chose Dr. Ross specifically because he was a man in the profession of relationship counseling and I was dating someone who didn’t give much credence to what a woman thought, professionally or personally. I encouraged my reluctant partner to join me in therapy to save our dating relationship and hopefully move toward a future as a married couple. I wanted him to hear from a man, how a man should treat a woman; how to trust a woman and give her needs significance in the relationship. I also wanted to hear from a man, how to understand this man in our relationship.

 

Dr. Ross was very warm, insightful, encouraging, and always seemed to hit home on how either of us were feeling in any given session. More importantly though, he hit home on why we felt what we felt and that kind of insight cleared the smoke on a lot of what my partner and I were struggling with. Dr. Ross was able to relate to both our sides, as well. Not just the male or the female perspective, but both and with great respect for us both. Neither of us felt as though we were ever raked across the coals for feeling one way or another. He always let us express ourselves openly and without judgment and he was always very empathic on either side. He was also very empowering to us both and our efforts in the relationship. I never walked out of the office feeling as though I wasted my time.

 

Eventually, my partner and I ended our relationship as a result of the progress made in counseling with Dr. Ross. We are still friends and occasionally touch base and I owe it all to the counseling. I continued following the relationship’s demise. Dr. Ross gave me the courage to make changes in my life and not fear the unknown of the future without my partner. He helped me find my self-confidence and self-esteem to move forward in my life without my partner. But he also helped me see the other side and be more sensitive to my partner’s feelings when it came time to end our relationship. Had it not been for that crucial part, we probably wouldn’t have ended it as well and as thoughtful and respectful to one another as we did.

 

After the end of the relationship, I continued individual counseling with Dr. Ross to heal from the breakup and learn about myself in the process. He helped me to identify patterns of relationship behavior, hurt from my past, and fears of the future. He worked with me to solidify my self-confidence and esteem and steps toward facing my fears and developing a sense of hopefulness instead of despair.

 

I have and will continue to recommend Dr. Ross as a great relationship and individual counselor. He has that certain personality that just allows you to open yourself up and share your mistakes, your insecurities, and your weaknesses without fear of judgment or ridicule. You just know he’s there to help you through; not to be a crutch or an enabler but someone that really wants to help you move through trouble or uncertain times. You’re left on the other side feeling hopeful, stronger, and more confident and his advice will ring in your ears for years to follow.

 

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It can be difficult to go willingly to a psychologist. Stereotypes lead us to believe we'll be laying down on a couch while notes about our childhood are scribbled onto a clipboard, judging everything we say. That was not my experience under the care of Dr. Mike Ross. I am an intelligent, educated young woman who experienced several different forms of loss (divorce, multiple pregnancy losses, etc.) in a relatively short period of time. I knew I wasn't crazy, but I also knew that my well-meaning, close friends would only tell me what I wanted to hear when I talked to them. I really needed someone who would be a qualified, but disinterested third party to help ensure I was making appropriate and rational life decisions and could confirm that I was coping as well as I thought I was despite my overwhelming circumstances. I needed someone to remind me to take care of myself amidst all that was going on and someone who could help me see additional perspectives as needed. I never felt like the cartoon patient on the leather sofa.  My appointments felt like I was having a comfortable weekly chat with someone who could ask me productive questions and who would listen to what I had to say. I needed reassurance that I was on the right track or an honest dialogue if I was veering off course. My appointments with Dr. Ross were exactly what I needed, when I needed it in order to continue to make productive and reasonable choices in my life. I was under Dr. Ross' care for approximately a year and I strongly recommend that anyone feeling overwhelmed, over-stressed, depressed or otherwise distraught to do yourself a favor and make an appointment. It's only human to need help once in a while. Seeking help isn't a sign of weakness; it's a sign of strength to recognize you need it. Going forward in my own life, I wouldn't hesitate to return to Dr. Ross if my situation took a downward turn; I'd look forward to his guidance and genuine support.

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Counseling is a lot like you might expect in that it is in a comfortable space and relaxed. We had conversations between ourselves with a neutral 3rd party (Mike). He provided us printed exercises and resources. One of our favorites was the “loving break,” which allows either one of us to call for a break from an argument and come back later when we've both had a chance to calm down and enabling us to accept/understand each other better.

 

We sought Mike's counseling during a time when our marriage was in crisis after almost 28years. We didn't really know what to expect, but Mike was not judgmental, understood each of our perspectives and offered some useful tools for us to work through our issues.

 

For myself I was reluctant to join in at first, feeling as if I would be confronted as the one with a problem. My spouse was anxious and depressed as we started. However, we were both committed to making our relationship work, which Dr. Ross helped us achieve.

It's been almost a year since we started seeing Dr. Ross, and we are as close as ever.